Today, we’re going to consider how you can grow as a person, feeling positive and motivated. Everyone needs a ‘toolbox’ of ways to manage their mindset, and their physical health and wellbeing. Yesterday, as part of #thoughtfulthursday, you considered things what you could be doing to feel nourished, and to thrive – in order to live more positively. Today, for #futurefriday you’ll add a new method to your toolbox – to recognise that negative events/feelings can happen, but we can choose how we react to them, and how we move forwards in life. If we deal with them positively, it’ll make us feel stronger and more resilient in the future.
Note for parents – it’s important to keep this a regular tool at home for moving from negative feelings to positive feelings. It is unlikely to have as much impact if this is a one-off, but is certainly worth trying and seeing if it’s something that could work for your family.
BAD BINS AND GREAT GALLERIES
Step 1 – draw a picture of something negative – this might be something that has happened recently in your life, something you’ve seen in a TV programme, or something you heard when you were at school. If you prefer to, you can write about that situation, exploring how it made you feel, but should not feel pressured to add lots of negative detail. At this point, it’s important to know that your negative feelings towards this are not going to last long in this activity.
Step 2 – Once all members of the family have done the same, sit together and take some time lovingly shredding those bits of paper (with the drawing/writing on) into tiny pieces! Each time you tear the pieces of paper, have a phrase such as “Better times are ahead”, “This doesn’t need to upset me anymore”, “All is forgiven” or “I’ll pick myself up, brush myself off, and start all over again”. Put a bin in the centre of the family and play some up-beat music while you scoop all of the shredded paper into the BAD BIN in the middle. (Adults: you could set a time limit to this to make it a fun, physical game – you could even throw the shredded paper around first then race to collect it all within the length of the song!)
Step 3 – After rushing around, clearing up, find a place in the house where you can go to create a positive drawing – a drawing of something that makes you happy. It’s important that you include as much positive detail as possible. Write a short caption for your picture, describing why this scene makes you feel especially happy.
Step 4 – Use strips of colourful paper/card to frame the pictures for display on your family’s ‘The GREAT Gallery” – use a space on the wall to display all the positive pictures and captions. Spend some time sharing what’s in the picture and celebrating these positive times as a family.
Step 4 – Place ‘The BAD Bin’ somewhere else in the house. Use this as a technique when you feel something negative has happened – draw/write about the negative, rip it to shreds and discard it in the BAD BIN, then proceed to add to the GREAT GALLERY with another positive scene which should be celebrated.
The aim of this activity is to move from negative to positive, and to turn a frown upside down. I hope it helps children to feel more motivated and positive.
JOURNAL QUESTION OF THE DAY:
How can you make next week as positive as possible? What are you motivated to do next week?